Dating and Fear of Rejection
Single again? While we travel through life, we often end up single. There are many reasons. Could be the result of meeting the wrong person, death, deceit, falsehood, divorce, location, goals, and more. Losing a Loveawake report impacts in many ways. It can be very painful, or it can be very refreshing, or in any medium. No matter what the cause or the degree of pain, there is a truth that we all share: we don’t want to end up alone. We want to find companionship.
In order to enter into a new relationship, we must be willing to meet and hang out with people. It is our own fear, however, that is often in the middle.
We are afraid to get rejected.
All these fears are valid still easily exceed. If someone refuses, it just means that that person feels that it is not right for them. Believe me, there’s someone else that I’d be with you. You must accept the rejection. It is only through trying to arrive to the correct person.
Many dates and relationships do not work. You can look back and think of it as a bad time. It’s good to have a bad time. Only through bad dates arrive at good dates. It is through our bad relationships that we have the opportunity to learn more about ourselves and what we want, to approach then relations with more knowledge to succeed.
Nobody wants to get hurt, but if you don’t have the courage to fall in love and get hurt, we cannot be in love. Getting hurt is part of the process. Let’s get through it and the pain goes away. The best part is that there is a new love waiting for you.
You may also be afraid to refuse someone. The truth is that no one is forced to be with someone who isn’t right for them. Rejection is part of the process of dating and relationships.
Change how you watch and see it as a favor. When you deny someone who are releasing or she going to find someone who really appreciate that person. Look at it this way even when someone refuses. After all, you don’t really want to be with someone who you don’t want to? It is better to be free to find someone who really wants to be with you.
Can you predict the future? I can’t. In fact, most of us don’t think we can. Yet we continue to believe in self-limiting thoughts about the future. We believe so strongly in these thoughts that allow them to prevent us from moving forward and realize opportunities.
Rather than anticipate the pain, can I predict to you that if you embrace the process of dating instead of watching life go by, you have good times and bad. I can also predict that these good times and bad will take you to even better times.
Embrace the journey and release your fear.
Ok. You have joined a couple of dating services and written a killer profile. You uploaded a good picture and now you are going to chat with a contact. Now what? How do you begin to separate those who have real potential and those that have no potential at all? You need to find something about who this strange woman really is and not only those who want to believe it. It would be nice if women wore labels like “Gold Digger” or “Daddy’s girl” …. but not so it’s up to you to find these things and you can’t just make direct questions. You need to know what mistakes you can avoid making and how to impress this lady, if you decide to do so.
After you are past the initial small talk, I ask you: “what are the biggest mistakes guys make when dating online?” Listen carefully to your answers. Going to tell you a lot about herself and her opinions on men in General.
You should then ask: “What do you really think about online dating?” Now she will tell you if you have had bad experiences or encounters online and will help you avoid making the same things wrong.
Now for the all-important ….. “What caused the break in your relationship last?” If you put all the blame on the guy, you should probably move on to the next prospect. If you get all the same fault, you should probably do the same. If you say that the breakup was mutual consent or that the relationship wasn’t right for neither, you have heard the answer. Move forward, but always with caution.
Make the right questions will give understanding and make you more confident when you meet the Lady for the first time.
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